Everyone knows (literally everyone – even strangers in the street that have no kids of their own) that babies mean sleepless nights. If you’re lucky it will be a bit of broken sleep. If you’re unlucky then you’ll be walking round and round your lounge for most of the night…

And yes, it can be tough. Tiring. Exhausting. Relentless.

But it can also be amazing.

So whilst I’m back to doing night feeds after baby number 3 came along, this time I look at them differently and remind myself of the following;


1 – It’s just the two of us

I have two other kids so most days I’m running round after them in between trying to look after the baby. I’m also nearly always trying to do housework/work or running errands. At night though it’s just me and him. No distractions. No interruptions. Nothing to do except concentrate on just looking after him.

It’s my chance to have cuddles and smiles without anyone else needing me. Without having my mind on what else needs doing round the house. I can relax and enjoy it being just the two of us.


2 – Feeding is bonding

Whether it’s breast or bottle, feeding a baby can be very bonding. I absolutely love being able to look into my baby’s eyes when he’s feeding and he has this adorable habit of holding onto one of my little fingers.

I also get to cuddle him during the feed and after if he doesn’t drop back to sleep straightaway. Plus knowing I’m taking care of him reminds me of how important I am to him as his mother. Feeding is bonding regardless but when it’s just the two of us in the middle of the night it feels even more special.


3 – Night feeds won’t last forever

I have older children so I know that the sleepless nights won’t last forever. There will come a time when he won’t wake up anymore. When he won’t need me or want me in the middle of the night (until he’s 18 and drunk…).

At that point I’ll lose those middle of the night cuddles when it’s just the two of us. I won’t be able to sneak in there knowing he’s awake and see him beaming at me from his crib because he’s pleased to see me. And I think that will make me just a little sad!


So yes, sometimes it’s annoying to be woken in the middle of the night. On the other hand, it can give you some of the most precious moments with your little one. Time where there’s no house work to do. Time where you can literally just focus on being together. And time when you know you are loved, needed and exactly what your baby wants.

Next time you are woken in the middle of the night just take a moment to appreciate the opportunity it gives you because one day you may very well miss it.