Month: February 2018

Why we should be more supportive of birth anxiety

When I was struggling with anxiety in my second and third pregnancies I was very open about it. I was comfortable telling people that I’d asked for an elective c-section (you can read about that in Don’t call me too posh to push). I didn’t worry about being honest about my first traumatic birth. It felt easy to talk about why I was afraid of childbirth because I had a good reason to be. I’d been through it and had an awful experience. It was OK for me to feel anxious, I felt like it was justified and that...

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When is feeling anxious about birth a problem?

As I said in the first post in the series (read it here at birth anxiety: what is it and why is it important), every woman feels anxious about giving birth. Which is natural. It’s a big deal. Huge. It leads to the birth of a baby – that’s about as life changing as it gets. So yeah, it’s going to feel a little bit nerve-racking. But how do we know when it’s not just natural nerves. How can you tell that there is something deeper going on? Something that’s going to need a little more help to get through?...

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Please stop worrying about what is ‘normal’

From the moment we find out we’re pregnant most of us suddenly become totally preoccupied with ‘normal’. We want to know if our symptoms are normal. We worry about what a ‘normal’ delivery is like. Maybe we’re wondering what weight gain is normal. If we’re supposed to lose sight of our feet so quickly. Or what ‘normal’ things we can expect once baby is out. And it doesn’t stop when we have the baby. No. It suddenly intensifies. We can spend literally hours wondering how our baby measures up to other babies. Is our baby feeding ‘normally’. Is the...

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What causes birth anxiety and can you avoid it?

In the first post in this series I looked at what birth anxiety is and considered the somewhat staggering number of women it affects each year. I wrote about the two different types: primary and secondary. I discussed how there isn’t much information or support for women who are affected by this. All of which is important but if you are struggling with this issue then the thing you want to know the most, is what do you do about it! But here’s the thing. The first step in knowing what you do about it is understanding where it comes from....

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Birth anxiety: what is it and why is it important

Pretty much every single pregnant woman has some anxiety about giving birth. Even if she is absolutely sure she can handle it, there is always a risk (usually very small) that something will go wrong. But for some women it goes a lot deeper than this. According to the National Childbirth Trust in the UK 20% of pregnant women are affected by their fear of giving birth and around 6% will be so affected by this fear that it affects the decisions they make and can be considered disabling. On top of this, approximately 13% of women are afraid enough...

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About Kate

I’m a mum of 3 and a Life Coach. I love writing about motherhood and coaching women to help them feel positive, happier and more confident in their role as a mum.

I’m passionate about mental health, body image and relationships plus an avid sci-fi fan, drinker of wine and lover of chocolate.

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